Well, there is a LOT on my mind... I've had almost a full 24 hours to digest some information that totally rocked my world, flipped it upside-down, poured it into a blender, and mixed it all up...
About 8 months ago we trekked across the country from the east coast to the west coast. At first I consoled myself with the constant mantra "We're only here for a little while, we can always move back... this isn't a permanent move, etc."... and that's how I got by from November through April.
Back in April, Jarred had an interview for a pilot slot at a company based in PA... I was THRILLED! Things were sounding really good, we had a 1 in 8 chance of getting a slot out of the 1000s that applied to the company... It was looking very promising! So, Jarred comes back to the west coast after the interview, feeling really good about everything and I'm mentally preparing to move back... Packing away the loose things on the RV, getting someone to drive back with me in one of the cars, etc.
The day finally comes when we have our answer. A big fat NO... "We've decided to go with someone else, but appreciate your interest. If something else opens up, we'll be sure to call you. Blah Blah Blah"
I was CRUSHED.
After a short mourning period, I decided to throw myself full-throttle into our life here in Portland. Jarred and I became more involved with our church; we were teaching Children's Church one Sunday a month, we were covering Sunday School classes for friends who had things planned. We really got more into hanging out with other couples in our age bracket and in our same stage of life. We started to blossom and thrive!
For once in our life, as a couple, we really found our niche. While living in PA, we never cultivated relationships like these. There were several reasons of course... At our home church we were the only married couple under the age 37... We were babies in a sea of elders... But I really believe that if you don't get involved in your church and work for it, it will never work for you and provide what ever it is you are looking for. So we never got involved with small groups that were couples in our same boat.
Plus, being so close to family, there was always someone to sit and talk with, or somewhere to do something or other. We had no real reason to go looking for friends! But moving to a place where we didn't know a soul really helped us grow closer and become more dependent on God and what He was doing in our lives.
So, as I was saying before I digressed, we have really come to adore these people and really see them as a part of our family... or maybe we are a part of theirs! I honestly believe that God didn't provide us that job back in April because I made an idol out of it. I hadn't learned what He wanted me to learn yet and I was too focused on what that "JOB!" would mean for our little growing family.
And now, here I am, getting back to my original point, that God has flipped our little Portland branch of the Murphy family upside down and presented a possible opportunity that would take place almost immediately if He sees fit to allow it.
I'm scared to death. I have grown so attached to all these amazing couples, with the same kinds of values as us, who are growing their little families, and genuinely want us to be a part of their lives. I also don't feel like I've chosen sides between my parents and Jarred's parents. Way up here in the NW we are far from all family. I really want our baby to grow up knowing both sets of grandparents equally. I was prepared for visiting each side several times a year and dividing holidays up equally between PA and TX... what to do now?
I guess that no matter what the outcome, God is in total control and He does have a master plan for us. All I can do is pray that His Will becomes my heart's desire and pray that my nerves be soothed and my worries turn to praise.
Lindsey
25 June 2010
09 June 2010
The Great Diaper Debate!
When Jarred and I first found out we were pregnant, we decided to keep things extremely simple and minimalistic. We chose this path for several reasons:
1. We want to be as cost effective as possible. We'd like to save money for Baby Murphy's college fund and we can best do this if we actively keep our spending to the necessities.
2. We live on an RV. Read - We have very little space to work with. We really enjoy living on the RV, but babies do have lots of things they need (clothes, diapers, a place to sleep, spit-up cloths galore!, etc.). We are not willing to have baby stuff crammed into every possible place for the simple fact that you cannot eat a onesie, nor can you take a shower with a box of diapers.
3. We really want to raise our children with an attitude of appreciation for what they have and an understanding that we don't NEED everything we WANT. Of course our kids will not grow up with out a few toys and doing some fun, cost enduced, activities, but I want them to understand that you can have just as much fun going to a park, playing with tupperware, and using your imagination.
Now, with all that being said... Jarred and I agreed upon disposable diapers when we discussed the matter. We haven't go a washer/dryer on board and it wouldn't be cost efficient to go to our laundromat every other day... We can buy the diapers we need, when we need them; we won't have to live with infant waste (our RV park dumptser is just across the alley), and they are much less time consuming for those who are unfamiliar or unpracticed with diaper changes.
However, we spent some time with friends, Katie and Ryan, on Sunday evening. They have a 11-week old daughter, Julie, who they cloth diaper during the day and use disposables on at night. I must admit that the amount of products on the market today regarding cloth had me somewhat dazed and confused, so I steered clear as much as possible.
After Katie helped me to understand the differences between pre-folds and flat folds, diaper covers and rubber pants, my idea wheels got to turning! The concept of cloth diapering was really appealing to me! Spend about $500 to get your stash of different sized pre-folds and diaper covers (for birth thru potty training), cloth wipes and a few connectors and you are set for this child and the future children as well! Brilliant! Especially since, on average, disposables can cost you upwards of $2000 per child...
Major drawback... you really can't leave soiled diapers for longer than 48 hours... and we don't need the extra expense of driving back and forth to the laundromat, cost of the washers/dryers (which for a load of diapers would be nearly $5.00 each time) and the hassle of me dealing with that everyday. They say new mothers are very tired and I am going to plan for that scenario...
But the subject still intrigued me, so I continued with my research. And wouldn't you know that I came across ways to handwash cloth diapers in a way that would ensure cleanliness! (It goes even farther than that!) I then came across hand-cranked mini washers that use pressure to force soil and filth from clothes (or diapers!) that fits on your counter top! Perfect for RVs! They also make these "dryers" that are actually "spinners" which can spin almost all the water out of fabrics, allowing them to air-dry in only a couple of hours!
My head is still cranking away at the doors this opens up! Jarred is still against anything but the ease of disposables... I can understand, they're fool proof and have the ability to contain blowouts a little better if you can't change the baby right away... But Jarred is also a cost-savy man.
We still have about 4.5 months until Baby Murphy makes his/her appearance and who knows, I may be able to convince him that cloth during the day, disposables at night are the way to go!
Wish me luck!
1. We want to be as cost effective as possible. We'd like to save money for Baby Murphy's college fund and we can best do this if we actively keep our spending to the necessities.
2. We live on an RV. Read - We have very little space to work with. We really enjoy living on the RV, but babies do have lots of things they need (clothes, diapers, a place to sleep, spit-up cloths galore!, etc.). We are not willing to have baby stuff crammed into every possible place for the simple fact that you cannot eat a onesie, nor can you take a shower with a box of diapers.
3. We really want to raise our children with an attitude of appreciation for what they have and an understanding that we don't NEED everything we WANT. Of course our kids will not grow up with out a few toys and doing some fun, cost enduced, activities, but I want them to understand that you can have just as much fun going to a park, playing with tupperware, and using your imagination.
Now, with all that being said... Jarred and I agreed upon disposable diapers when we discussed the matter. We haven't go a washer/dryer on board and it wouldn't be cost efficient to go to our laundromat every other day... We can buy the diapers we need, when we need them; we won't have to live with infant waste (our RV park dumptser is just across the alley), and they are much less time consuming for those who are unfamiliar or unpracticed with diaper changes.
However, we spent some time with friends, Katie and Ryan, on Sunday evening. They have a 11-week old daughter, Julie, who they cloth diaper during the day and use disposables on at night. I must admit that the amount of products on the market today regarding cloth had me somewhat dazed and confused, so I steered clear as much as possible.
After Katie helped me to understand the differences between pre-folds and flat folds, diaper covers and rubber pants, my idea wheels got to turning! The concept of cloth diapering was really appealing to me! Spend about $500 to get your stash of different sized pre-folds and diaper covers (for birth thru potty training), cloth wipes and a few connectors and you are set for this child and the future children as well! Brilliant! Especially since, on average, disposables can cost you upwards of $2000 per child...
Major drawback... you really can't leave soiled diapers for longer than 48 hours... and we don't need the extra expense of driving back and forth to the laundromat, cost of the washers/dryers (which for a load of diapers would be nearly $5.00 each time) and the hassle of me dealing with that everyday. They say new mothers are very tired and I am going to plan for that scenario...
But the subject still intrigued me, so I continued with my research. And wouldn't you know that I came across ways to handwash cloth diapers in a way that would ensure cleanliness! (It goes even farther than that!) I then came across hand-cranked mini washers that use pressure to force soil and filth from clothes (or diapers!) that fits on your counter top! Perfect for RVs! They also make these "dryers" that are actually "spinners" which can spin almost all the water out of fabrics, allowing them to air-dry in only a couple of hours!
My head is still cranking away at the doors this opens up! Jarred is still against anything but the ease of disposables... I can understand, they're fool proof and have the ability to contain blowouts a little better if you can't change the baby right away... But Jarred is also a cost-savy man.
We still have about 4.5 months until Baby Murphy makes his/her appearance and who knows, I may be able to convince him that cloth during the day, disposables at night are the way to go!
Wish me luck!
I Have Tired of Non-Sense
Since finding out we became pregnant, we have discovered whattoexpect.com
This site is terrible! I have habitually checked these forums to see what other people think, what things get my blood pumping, what things I think are silly, or intriguing... But I have officially tired of the site.
Many of the topics that get my blood flow going are really starting to drive me up a wall! I have decided that, for my sanity and for the health of Baby Murphy, I will be taking a break from all the non-sense! Jarred will be pleased! Haha! He already thinks I spend too much time playing with the iPhone app that we each downloaded... now, I shall rectify that situation.
There are many things that have taken the back seat to this forum addiction and it is now time to re-focus.
I think I'll start "Project Re-Focus" right now!
Lindsey
This site is terrible! I have habitually checked these forums to see what other people think, what things get my blood pumping, what things I think are silly, or intriguing... But I have officially tired of the site.
Many of the topics that get my blood flow going are really starting to drive me up a wall! I have decided that, for my sanity and for the health of Baby Murphy, I will be taking a break from all the non-sense! Jarred will be pleased! Haha! He already thinks I spend too much time playing with the iPhone app that we each downloaded... now, I shall rectify that situation.
There are many things that have taken the back seat to this forum addiction and it is now time to re-focus.
I think I'll start "Project Re-Focus" right now!
Lindsey
08 June 2010
Random Aggrivations...
Well, I haven't posted in almost 4 months, but today something happened that has really got my blood boiling!!!
The neighbors across the street have been BLARING their radio for the past 3 HOURS!!!! Here I am earlier today vacuuming and over the sound of the vacuum I can hear the sound of voices... I peek out the window to see what's going on and behold... the neighbor is sitting outside his 5th wheel with all doors open on some creepy looking white van with no windows (except the windshield) and the radio blaring... I decide that I will be the bigger person and ignore the audio invasion.
Now, I sit here listening to the rediculously loud and annoying radio while trying to watch t.v. It is taking absolutely every OUNCE of self-discipline i can muster to refrain from shouting at the top of my lungs for them to "SHUT THAT RACKET OFF!!!" or going to my car and blasting the local Christian radio station to atleast combat the sound of non-sense!
OH! By the way, I remember why I had resisted posting for awhile... I'm PREGNANT!!!! We found out on March 2nd and didn't tell anyone until Easter Sunday... I knew that I couldn't possibly keep from writing about it here, but there was a great danger that I may have told someone about my blog and after posting the BIG NEWS they may have had the desire to check out my blog.... I could NOT risk that kind of exposure!
So any how, Jarred and I expect our first little one on November 3, 2010!!!! We are super excited about this! My little sister is badgering us to find out if it's a boy or a girl...but we're waiting until Baby Murphy is born!!!
With all that being said, today is the last day of my 19th week... only one more week until the mid-point of this super exciting journey!!!!
The neighbors across the street have been BLARING their radio for the past 3 HOURS!!!! Here I am earlier today vacuuming and over the sound of the vacuum I can hear the sound of voices... I peek out the window to see what's going on and behold... the neighbor is sitting outside his 5th wheel with all doors open on some creepy looking white van with no windows (except the windshield) and the radio blaring... I decide that I will be the bigger person and ignore the audio invasion.
Now, I sit here listening to the rediculously loud and annoying radio while trying to watch t.v. It is taking absolutely every OUNCE of self-discipline i can muster to refrain from shouting at the top of my lungs for them to "SHUT THAT RACKET OFF!!!" or going to my car and blasting the local Christian radio station to atleast combat the sound of non-sense!
OH! By the way, I remember why I had resisted posting for awhile... I'm PREGNANT!!!! We found out on March 2nd and didn't tell anyone until Easter Sunday... I knew that I couldn't possibly keep from writing about it here, but there was a great danger that I may have told someone about my blog and after posting the BIG NEWS they may have had the desire to check out my blog.... I could NOT risk that kind of exposure!
So any how, Jarred and I expect our first little one on November 3, 2010!!!! We are super excited about this! My little sister is badgering us to find out if it's a boy or a girl...but we're waiting until Baby Murphy is born!!!
With all that being said, today is the last day of my 19th week... only one more week until the mid-point of this super exciting journey!!!!
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